The Power Of Acceptance By Pazoo Happiness Expert Diane Lang

Do more of what makes you happy – plus Sept/Oct Workshop Schedule.

Accepting your life and situations at this moment is a choice but one you shouldn’t take lightly. If you choose to accept, you can find peace, clarity, growth and happiness. When we don’t accept we find ourselves caught up in a never-ending circle of struggle and frustration. We can’t get off the hamster wheel until we accept and let go of our struggle and just breathe. Yes, I think acceptance and breathing go hand in hand. For most of us when we can’t get off the hamster wheel of anger and frustration, we find ourselves not relaxing or having any peace but with acceptance, I felt a weight has been lifted off my chest and I could finally breathe again. The choice is yours. Do you choose acceptance or struggle?

9 Ways To Acceptance:

  1. Stop comparing yourself to others.
  2. Don’t aim for perfection; it’s never going to happen.
  3. Acceptance doesn’t mean stuck or not moving forward. Acceptance means this is where I am today and from here I can make the decision where I want to go tomorrow.
  4. Acceptance means letting go of controlling everything but you and how you react. We can’t control anything but ourselves and when we try to change others, we get frustrated and angry because we can’t control others.

**Control and perfection are personality traits that are learned and cause us to feel stressed out.

  1. True acceptance takes off the pressure we have put on ourselves by trying to be perfect, to be like others or trying to control everything. When we release the stress and anxiety, we can finally feel a sense of peace and clarity.
  2. True acceptance allows us to slow down, relax and have clarity. With that clarity, we can make decisions based on love not fear. If we make decisions from a good place, a well thought out place, we can stop resentment and regret. Take the time to accept, slow down and see things clearly, we will make better choices.
  3. Acceptance can only come with forgiveness – forgiveness of others and ourselves. We can’t be angry and in true acceptance at the same time. Acceptance means taking responsibility for everything in our lives including the arguments, disagreements and hurt. Forgiveness allows us to see the big picture. With all pain comes growth. With forgiveness comes the lesson and clarity. Forgiveness brings us a peace of mind, it allows us to move forward and grow. Hold onto pain and you will remain stuck in negativity.
  4. Acceptance of your life in the present moment means change is coming. We can accept our situations and where we are but with each new day comes new changes. No matter how much you try to avoid change, it’s unavoidable. So accept where you are and your situation and know that acceptance is the beginning of your next chapter.
  5. When you feel stuck and stagnate – accept. Don’t keep trying to problem solve and find an answer when your thought process is the same. We don’t problem solve in a healthy manner when we are in the mist of a struggle and filled with anger and fear. Instead, try the acceptance route. Stop the struggle, let go of the fight and just accept. This means do nothing, don’t take any action just accept. Be still and at peace with where you are at this very moment. Don’t try to change it, fight it, ignore it, avoid it, etc. just truly accept. When we accept and let go and see things with a clear vision, new answers and solutions come up. Accept and wait for it, it will come.

Diane Lang/Pazoo


September Workshops:

Thursday, September 15 – October 6, 1pm – Psychology in Film

Montclair Adult School, NJ

Phone: 973-744-0500 ext 2224


Tuesday, September 20, 7pm – Living a Mindful Life

Montclair Adult school, NJ

Phone: 973-744-0500 ext 2224


Wednesday, September 21, 7pm – Coaching Yourself to Success- Free Workshop

Jefferson Township Public Library, NJ

Phone: 973-208-6244


Saturday, September 24, 2pm – Dealing with Stress – Free Workshop

Stratford Public Library, NJ

Phone: 856-783-0602


Monday, September 26, 7pm – The Developing Child, Ages 3 – 6 Free Workshop

Bernard’s Township Public Library, NJ

Phone: 908-204-3031


Tuesday, September 27 – Tuesday, October 11, 6pm – Emotional Wellness Series

Warren Community College, NJ

Phone: 908-835-2333


October Workshops:

Wednesday, October 5, 7pm – Living a Mindful Life

Ramsey Adult School, NJ

Phone: 201-327-2025


Thursday, October 6, 7pm – Positive Psychology – Free Workshop

Mendham Township Public Library, NJ

Phone: 973-809-7432


Saturday, October 8, 1pm – Positive Psychology

The Academi of Life, NYC

Phone: 212-333-3950


Wednesday, October 13, 7pm – Positive Psychology

Union County College, NJ

Phone: 908-709-7601


Monday, October 17, 7pm – Follow Your Passions

Montclair Adult School, NJ

Phone: 973-744-0500 ext 2224


Tuesday, October 18, 7pm – Finding Your Happiness

Morris Hills Adult School, NJ

Phone: 973-664-2295


Wednesday, October 19, 6:30pm – Re-train Your Brain for Happiness

Hofstra University, NY

Phone: 516-463-7200


Monday, October 24, 7pm – Positive Psychology

Westfield Adult School, NJ

Phone: 973-443-9222


Tuesday, October 25, 7pm – What Kind of Smart Are You?

Morris Hills Adult school, NJ

Phone: 973-664-2295


Thursday, October 27, 7pm – Dealing with Negative People

Morris Community School, NJ

Phone: 973-292-2063



Diane Lang

About Diane Lang

Diane Lang is a therapist, educator and author with expertise in multiple mental health, lifestyle and parenting needs. Her passion for helping women find their place in motherhood and the workplace is reflected in her counseling, radio appearances, books (“Babysteps: The Path from Motherhood to Career,” and “Creating Balance and Finding Happiness”), and in her “Super Mom Series” speaking engagements.

Diane has a Masters degree in Counseling Psychology, and holds multiple counseling positions. She is also...