Finding Your Gratitude

Finding Your Gratitude

Daily happiness advice and upcoming workshops with  Psychology/Happiness Expert Diane Lang.

I have been struggling with some medical issues over the last few months. Usually, I would spend my time getting upset over being sick and not in control. This time I decided to use my illness as a learnable lesson. What if I looked at my life and asked myself what was missing? What could I do better to take care of myself physically? Emotionally? Spiritually?

I realized that gratitude has been part of my morning routine for years but it wasn’t having the same impact it used to have. The reason was, I was just saying my gratitude without meaning. When I started paying attention to my gratitude moments in the morning, I realized I was saying the same gratitudes over and over again without meaning or thought behind it. Gratitude just became part of my morning routine like taking a shower, brushing my teeth and eating breakfast. I was doing gratitude on autopilot and needed to stop and really focus on what I was thankful for.

This was the change I needed. Maybe my latest illness was just a wake up call to really be in the present in my life and what I truly had that I didn’t appreciate or pay much attention to?  Maybe my latest illness is a wake up call to pay more Attention to all the good in my life. All the love in my life. I took the hint and started by saying Thank you to God (universe, the source) for being alive and for the wake up call. I knew I could do better and for that I’m truly grateful.

The changes in my gratitude routine

My new gratitude routine consists of my old usual routine of asking myself everyday: What are 2-3 things I’m grateful for? but then I take it a step further and after each thing I’m grateful for I ask why? The why allows me to dig deeper and realize why I’m truly grateful.

I take some time to say my gratitude checks. I don’t rush through it, I put time and attention into it.

I do an act of showing thanks to at least one person a day. I think this step adds to my gratitude by sharing it with others.

I don’t have expectations on gratitude. Some days I’m only grateful for one thing and sometimes I struggle to find that one thing but other times my list could go on for a long time. I don’t expect to be grateful for big things or miracles, some times the best moments of thanks are for the little things. When I’m grateful for the little things, they end up becoming bigger and better.

What are you grateful for? Why?

Diane Lang/Pazoo




Thursday, September 15 – October 6, 1pm – Psychology in Film

Montclair Adult School, NJ

Phone: 973-744-0500 ext 2224


Tuesday, September 20, 7pm – Living a Mindful Life

Montclair Adult school, NJ

Phone: 973-744-0500 ext 2224


Wednesday, September 21, 7pm – Coaching Yourself to Success- Free Workshop

Jefferson Township Public Library, NJ

Phone: 973-208-6244


Saturday, September 24, 2pm – Dealing with Stress – Free Workshop

Stratford Public Library, NJ

Phone: 856-783-0602


Monday, September 26, 7pm – The Developing Child, Ages 3 – 6 Free Workshop

Bernard’s Township Public Library, NJ

Phone: 908-204-3031


Tuesday, September 27 – Tuesday, October 11, 6pm – Emotional Wellness Series

Warren Community College, NJ

Phone: 908-835-2333


October Workshops:

Wednesday, October 5, 7pm – Living a Mindful Life

Ramsey Adult School, NJ

Phone: 201-327-2025


Thursday, October 6, 7pm – Positive Psychology – Free Workshop

Mendham Township Public Library, NJ

Phone: 973-809-7432


Saturday, October 8, 1pm – Positive Psychology

The Academi of Life, NYC

Phone: 212-333-3950


Wednesday, October 13, 7pm – Positive Psychology

Union County College, NJ

Phone: 908-709-7601


Monday, October 17, 7pm – Follow Your Passions

Montclair Adult School, NJ

Phone: 973-744-0500 ext 2224


Tuesday, October 18, 7pm – Finding Your Happiness

Morris Hills Adult School, NJ

Phone: 973-664-2295


Wednesday, October 19, 6:30pm – Re-train Your Brain for Happiness

Hofstra University, NY

Phone: 516-463-7200


Monday, October 24, 7pm – Positive Psychology

Westfield Adult School, NJ

Phone: 973-443-9222


Tuesday, October 25, 7pm – What Kind of Smart Are You?

Morris Hills Adult school, NJ

Phone: 973-664-2295


Thursday, October 27, 7pm – Dealing with Negative People

Morris Community School, NJ

Phone: 973-292-2063


Diane Lang

About Diane Lang

Diane Lang is a therapist, educator and author with expertise in multiple mental health, lifestyle and parenting needs. Her passion for helping women find their place in motherhood and the workplace is reflected in her counseling, radio appearances, books (“Babysteps: The Path from Motherhood to Career,” and “Creating Balance and Finding Happiness”), and in her “Super Mom Series” speaking engagements.

Diane has a Masters degree in Counseling Psychology, and holds multiple counseling positions. She is also...